When Personal and Professional Collide

Did your infertility journey come to a halt due to COVID-19?

Mine too.

Whew. That’s the first time I’ve shared this publicly. 

My husband and I have been struggling with secondary infertility for over two years. Though our first pregnancy came with some challenges (read about them here), getting pregnant was no problem. So, this has come as a surprise and a source of frustration. And since so much of my practice is focused on supporting couples and optimizing fertility naturopathically, it feels kind of ironic. 

Initially, this overlap wasn’t a problem for me. My training and clinical experience have prepared me to focus on the client. But as time passed, I began to doubt how well I was keeping our experiences separate. I worried if it was healthy for me, emotionally, to continually confront others with the same challenges and worries I had.

Also, I wondered if I was being a little disingenuous. These clients and their partners had no idea how much I can relate to them. There are a few reasons it has taken me so long to share:

It’s vulnerable as heck! Infertility is not spoken about enough, let alone by an ND who focuses in treating it. 

I’m a private person. Yes, I’m sharing here. But it doesn’t mean I want to become the “spokesperson” for secondary infertility.

Healthy boundaries. In nursing school and naturopathic college, when I learned about patient/client relationships, I was taught to maintain boundaries, to keep the interaction about them, that “it shouldn’t be about me.” It is hard to judge when sharing is helpful and relatable and when it crosses a line.

Fear of losing clients. I wondered if people would want to see an ND for fertility who “can’t” get pregnant herself. 

After much reflection, I’ve decided that fertility should continue to be a central part of my practice. I believe some couples would want to see me because I can relate to the emotional roller-coaster of the process. 

Along with empathy, I have a lot of knowledge to share on naturopathic infertility support. For more than five years, I have immersed myself in the research and focused my continuing education in this area. What I’ve learned feeds my motivation and energy to continue, as do the success stories. I have successfully supported many couples with infertility. Every time a patient has a positive pregnancy test, I feel joy. 

And while infertility is the through-line, no two cases are the same. Each has its own unique root causes to address. We are all individuals, so treatment plans vary from person to person.   

Finally, personally, I have come to a better place of acceptance with our situation. I don’t want to hide it any longer. I don’t want to worry if I’ll know the pharmacist who’s filling my fertility medication prescription, or if I see a client in the fertility clinic waiting room.  

So thank you, COVID-19, for giving me the courage to shed my protective armour and embrace vulnerability. Thank you for showing me how I can continue to serve my mission and purpose during these uncertain times.

If you are waiting to get back to your fertility clinic or are still on the waitlist for your first visit, you can use this time to proactively. You can improve your chances of success with IUI and IVF by working on your health, including egg and sperm quality. Research shows that good-quality embryos that successfully implant and become a pregnancy most likely result from good-quality eggs. The good news? There are lifestyle factors and supplements to maximize and improve your egg quality. Plus, there is a crucial window in which we should act, as it takes approximately three months for an immature egg to mature and be ready for ovulation. This is where we can make a difference. 

Do you want to take back control and maximize this time as you wait for the next steps in your fertility journey? I am here for you and ready to help. Book your free, 15-minute Baby Bloomers Fertility Program Discovery Call so we can explore the possibility of working together.